So, I just have to share some excerpts from a book I'm reading, Total Church, by Tim Chester and Steve Timmis.
On the topic of apologetics:
"What will commend the gospel are lives lived in obedience to the gospel and a community life that reflects God's triune community of love. People will not believe until they are genuinely open to exploring the truth about God. They become open as they see that it is good to know God. And they see that it is good to know God as they see the love of the Christian community.
As Francis Schaffer said, 'Our relationship with each other is the criterion the world uses to judge whether our message is truthful. Christian community is the ultimate apologetic.'"